When you look at yourself in the mirror, what’s on your mind? “I need to lose weight.” “I need to tone up.” “Look at that cellulite.” “Those acne scars are so visible.” “The stretch marks aren’t fading fast enough.” “My nose is too big.” “My hair is too stringy/flat/curly/straight/etc.” “My arms are too short.” “I’m too tall/short.” The list can go and on, right? Well if that’s what you’re telling yourself, of course that’s what you’re going to see. That is the person who will be staring back at you.
Creating a Body Positive Attitude
What if we could change what we see? Like starting immediately. Without losing weight, toning up, or fading our scars. It takes work, but not the kind that takes place in the gym, and you won’t find it on the internet or in a crash diet. You’re going to find it within yourself. The first step is in improving our body positive attitude is changing how we talk about ourselves and to ourselves. Instead of looking in the mirror and repeating all of the above, why not try listing the things you like about yourself? It feels weird at first. Definitely cheesy and corny. But it starts there!
One gutsy gal decided to go to the extreme with the whole evil-mirror idea. Author Kjerstin Gruys went an entire year without looking at herself in the mirror. When I first heard about her book Mirror, Mirror Off the Wall: How I Learned to Love My Body by Not Looking at It for a Year, I’m not going to lie, I thought she was sort of nuts. Especially because this included her WEDDING DAY. Of course I had to read it. Not only because I was on my own mission to love myself at any size (still an up and down road, btw), but because I was so intrigued about how one could actually do this. And I had to know what she learned.
The book was amazing. Kjerstin is down to earth, so real with herself and her readers, and made so many amazing points. Not only did the book really open your eyes to the amount of bullying we do to ourselves, but it was actually a super easy read. It reads like a novel, a funny one at that. Kjerstin is funny and witty and completely relatable.
What this Meant to Me
While I’m not sure I’d want to go to the same extreme and avoid mirrors for a year (or for any length of time), I do recommend reading the book. Click the links or the image to find it at a great price, and if you’re inspired to add “loving yourself” and improving your body positive attitude to your fitness goals, and would like help working on all of these goals, please reach out by clicking below!
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