This one’s for all my fellow mamas out there, because I know exactly what you’re thinking and feeling about weight loss right now!
“I don’t have time or energy to diet!”
“Dieting seems impossible, I’m never going to get a hold of this.”
“I have 0 time for myself, how can I possibly lose weight?”
“Is seeing me on a diet their whole life really what’s best for my children?”
Taking care of yourself is important. That may or may not include weight loss for you, but if it does, you’re simply not going to be able to do it (sustainably) the same way you did it before you were a mom.
Why Weight Loss is Different as a Mom
The bottom line here is… you’re different. I mean, you’re still YOU of course, but your body is different and even more importantly, your priorities are different and your life is different. You simply can’t expect to be able to keep up with everything in your life, take care of your family, AND take care of yourself if you’re restricting your intake or spending hours in the gym.
Deep down, I know you know this. But I also know you’re still hoping that you can achieve some weight loss and manage your health without sacrificing everything else. I know you’re looking for a way. And I know that it’s stressing you out.
Why Restriction Is No Longer Your Solution
Because, mama, you need energy! Calories, simply put, are units of energy, and the ONLY source of energy our bodies can use. Without adequate meals and snacks, you can’t have the energy you need to take care of your family and your job and yourself.
If you try to restrict, I promise, you’ll end up binge-eating.
Does this sound familiar: “I was so good all day/week, just to completely undo it at night/on the weekend?” You think it’s your fault, but it’s not! It’s because you’re hungry and you’re tired and you need more energy.
What To Do Instead
Most people think of energy balance when trying to lose weight—> Eat less calories (aka energy) than you burn. So, we decrease our intake. Makes sense right? No. Well… yes, but only to a certain extent. When you decrease your calories, you also decrease your energy and your metabolism. Now, you’re burning less calories than you’re eating and you’re struggling to maintain weight.
So, instead of focusing on decreasing your intake, focus on increasing your metabolism. With a higher metabolism, you’ll have higher energy and a higher calorie burn.
Here are some tips for how you can increase your metabolism and lose weight WITHOUT restriction:
- Eat protein with every meal.
- Include carbs
- Eat every 3-4 hours
- Get adequate sleep
- Stay hydrated
- Stay active
- Build muscle
- Manage Stress
Self Care Is NOT Selfish
This is a big topic. One of the main reasons it’s difficult to maintain a healthy lifestyle as a mom is because we feel selfish for taking the time for ourselves! And I don’t want to be the person that adds even one more thing to your “Be A Super Mom With Superpowers List”. But you simply cannot take care of others if you’re not also taking care of yourself.
Plus, you DESERVE to take care of yourself. You deserve to manage your health, feel good in your own skin, and be confident. But it starts with managing your stress and practicing self care, so that you can be the amazing person and mom that you are.
Trust me, the rest of your To-Do list will seem easier and less overwhelming if you’re taking care of yourself. The basics that every human being should be doing are:
- Eat proper meals and snacks
- Get enough sleep (as physically possible, because let’s face it.. You are a mom!)
- Regular exercise
- Stay hydrated
- Practice good hygiene rituals
When teaching stress management in my program, I always have my clients incorporate at least a couple of the following into your lifestyle to manage stress:
- Meditation, breathing exercises, and/or yoga
- Find a hobby
- Set aside a little downtime for yourself each day
- Pamper yourself with a hair or nail appointment or a massage every once in a while
- Go for a walk
- Buy yourself something fun
- Do something fun
- Read a book or magazine
I know, these ideas are all WAY easier said than done. I’m a mom too, and a business owner, so I know how difficult it can be. But when I became a mom, I made a promise to myself that I would always include self care. I made that promise because I know that I’m a better and more present person when I do, and that’s the kind of mom I want to be for my son. It’s so hard, but it is possible.
If you’re not there yet, don’t fret or beat yourself up! It’s not your fault! We live in a world that screams “DO EVERYTHING ALL AT ONCE” to all us mamas. It’s beaten into our heads so hard that we forget that in order to do everything we have to do, we have to be able to function like human beings.
I can honestly say, that when I’m practicing self care regularly, I am able to achieve SO much more in my day, and my son laughs a lot more too. When I’m not getting up early to exercise and meditate, when I skip snacks or a shower, our day is so much harder.
It’s definitely worth making the time for, but it’s not easy. If you need help to make it happen, speak up! Talk to someone who can help you watch the kids, talk to your partner about helping you find more time for you. Text your girlfriends about a girls night, have your mom pick up the kids from daycare so you can get your nails done after work. Plan a sleepover at the grandparents so you can go get a massage or have a date night.